It has become common, in a workplace there is always such a thing as competition. This competition will certainly be a trigger for every company, especially its employees, to work better. The existing competition must certainly be carried out in a healthy manner and also sportsmanship. But in reality, this competition is often tainted by envious co-workers.
You will also encounter a wide variety of attitudes and behaviors of people. Starting from the good, loyal and caring ones, to those who are bossy, apple-polisher and wants you to fail. As a gathering place for various types of human attitudes and behaviors, You may feel incompatible with some colleagues. Usually, it's because of their attitude and behavior that you think is frustrating.
Take a deep breath, this is a normal thing. In fact, facing frustrating coworkers is experienced by many people. Well, you still have to be professional, huh! Dealing with frustrating coworkers wisely, knocking them down will make you look professional. How to do it? Here, are ways to deal with frustrating coworkers:
1. When facing a colleague who is thin-skinned, you better explain all your attitudes to your colleague
People who are easily thin-skinned are usually irritable or easily carried away by the attitude that others give. Sometimes a joke is taken seriously, while it's time to be serious, they become angry. The good way to deal with that kind of co-worker is to show your maturity by giving a polite explanation for the attitude you show him. For example, when evaluating and you want to criticize, then say it will help him grow. In essence, you have to be more patient to explain your attitude and the attitude of the people around you, so they will get less sensitive.
2. When dealing with an envious colleague, get to know your co-worker more closely and don't cultivate resentment
Don’t judge a book by its cover, this is a saying that is often conveyed to people who don't know each other. If a coworker often envies you, rather be provoked by their attitude, it’s better for you to get to know them better. Try to start an introduction in a good way. To start the introduction and find out his background, it would be better if you know their close friends in advance. If there is none, you can ask the HRA or someone who really knows them.
Anger and resentment are humane when you get unpleasant treatment. However, this feeling should not make you cultivate a sense of resentment against colleagues. Do the same thing to your colleague by spreading issues that are not true, vilifying their good name, or retaliating for their treatment with a harsher attitude. If that happens, the problem will never be solved and will dissolve like an unbroken chain. Therefore, if you are dealing with people who are always jealous, behave reasonably.
3. When facing a gossipy colleague, communicate appropriately and do not get affected
Gossiping in the office is no longer a strange thing. Almost every office has employees who love to gossip. This habit is one that also irritating if it is continuously done. Keep in mind that gossiping can hurt other employees and cause the work environment to become toxic.
The step you can take is not to involve in gossiping by communicating appropriately and not being affected. If your co-worker finds it difficult to change his gossipy self and has become an innate trait that is ingrained in him, then the attitude you can take is to communicate appropriately. That is, the communication you do is only limited to work that has something to do with the coworker. When communicating further, it is feared that it will be a trigger for conflict in the larger workplace. If there has been a prolonged conflict in the office, the working atmosphere will not be conducive and comfortable.
If indeed what is reported is not true, then avoid anger and other negative attitudes. It could be that the news is deliberately made and provokes your emotions. The attitude you should take is to continue to work and focus on completing the work that is your responsibility. Gradually, the existing news will disappear by itself. The most important thing also from responding to skewed information or gossiping is not easily influenced and keep thinking positive.
4. When facing a colleague who is an apple-polisher, just keep your distance and stay confident
If you have a co-worker who is an apple-polisher, especially with your boss, believe that this attitude is also not liked by your other colleague. How to deal with colleague who is an apple-polisher is just keep your distance, in the sense that there is no need to participate in the dramas they created. Although it sometimes makes you angry, but try not to show your dislike. Don't forget, you also have to stay confident in the abilities you have.
5. When facing a colleague who always complains, reprimand by discussing the problem
Sometimes work does make us complain or complain. However, if it is done continuously, it will be an annoying thing. When colleagues complain continuously, unconsciously you will also be carried away by a negative atmosphere and influence other colleagues' opinions about their work. This can reduce work productivity and cause an unpleasant atmosphere for other employees. If this happens, you can try to invite the colleague to discuss personally about the problem in the office. By inviting discussion, you remain open-minded. You will know what problems he faces and help find solutions.
6. If it's too frustrating, try asking another colleague or person in charge of the team for help
This is a last resort if you've run out of ways to deal with a frustrating co-worker. Discussing the attitude is the most appropriate way to deal with it. You can try to involve a third person who is authorized to handle the problem, such as the team head or person in charge. This third person's role as a mediator between you and your frustrating partner. Hopefully, there can be a way out that keeps both parties comfortable at work. It's a good idea to bring evidence to strengthen the incompatibility between the two of you, and say that you have spoken directly with the co-worker.
No matter how frustrating your co-worker's attitude and behavior is, if you deal with it by reciprocating the same attitude, then it is not a professional. Because, you are doing the same mistake to make others uncomfortable. So if there is a mismatch or feel that a co-worker is behaving frustratingly, try following these ways to reduce disagreements between you and your co-workers. Believe me, a wise attitude will make you more classy and professional at work. Keep fighting!
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